There is a war going on inside of me. Part of me says “Do you best, shoot for the stars, reach for your dreams”! The other part says “Why do you work so hard? Be ye content with such things as ye have. Godliness with contentment is great gain”.
The battle continues. If I am reaching for my dreams, working toward my goals, always reaching, reaching, I feel as if what I am is not good enough. If I don’t make ‘the’ goal, I feel as if I am a failure.
If I am always reaching, I also forget to take a look around and enjoy the journey. I am always trying to figure out what worked and what didn’t. What do I need to try differently next time?
Society doesn’t help either. They are constantly pushing you to Do Do Do, Have, Have, Have. Bosses push for more from you. Our calendars want more from us. We feel pressure, whether real or imagined, from our peers and our family.
If I continue at this pace, eventually I will burnout. I will burn out and will use up the resources within me at too fast a rate. Actually, this is what DID happen to me. Complete and total burnout which led to a mental meltdown.
So, as I go through a time of healing and searching, my mind may want to swing the other direction. The other side of that coin seems to be contentment. Enjoying where you are. Stop working so hard. As I began to look more deeply into that though, however, that is not contentment, it is a life of checking out, of giving up, of not trying at all to improve or grow.
We’ve all met people who have seemed to have ‘checked out’ of life. They have no goals, no dreams. “Just gonna work this job til I die or can get social security.” In their hearts, they don’t think they can get any better, don’t deserve any better, so they don’t work for any better. They have traded the sensation of ‘living’ for the security of a paycheck.
That is a life of underachieving. Burnout may be overdoing, but to just give up is to not BE what you were meant to BE, not using what God has given you in this life. What a waste!
Benjamin E. Mays said it best~~
… the tragedy in life does not lie with not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in not having a goal to reach.
It isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled, but it is a calamity not to dream.
It is not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideal, but it is a disaster if you have no ideal to capture.
It is not a disgrace not to reach the stars, but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach for.
Finding the balance
The challenge for me personally is this… being able to set goals and reach for them without burning out. Working towards a dream without letting it overtake me. Using the resources I have, but never forgetting Who they came from. And learning to balance the striving with the living, the DO-ing with the BE-ing. I don’t have to be perfect, I just have to become the me I was meant to be, and that is good enough!
When you die and go to heaven, our maker is not going to ask, ‘Why didn’t you discover the cure for such and such?” The only question we will be asked in that precious moment is “Why didn’t you become you?” ~~ Elie Wiesel
I believe we each have a purpose in our life, and our goal should be to discover that purpose and then reach for it (don’t forget the parable of the talents!) . One of my favorite motivational speakers, Les Brown says, “Shoot for the moon, and even if you don’t make it, you’ll end up among the stars!” I’d add, “Just don’t forget to enjoy the journey and the view along the way!”
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