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What are you saying to yourself?

As I begin to work through renewing my mind and body and praying for healing, I am having to learn to rewrite some of the things I tell myself in my head.  Self-talk can be extremely helpful or very detrimental to relieving stress and achieving some emotional balance. One thing I am trying to get ingrained is ‘Progress not Perfection’. No one person is ever a finished product. Seeking perfection in yourself or others is a exercise in futility. By trying to hold ourselves, or those around us, to a standard of perfection, can quickly lead to a downward spiral in depression. We have to realize that life is about each step that we take, even if they are baby steps.

Shouldn’t I strive to be the best person I can be?

Absolutely. And the key parts of that phrase are ‘strive’ and ‘best I can be’. It is a constant process. We will never completely attain it in this life, as we are all human. And as humans, we are all different. We have different strengths and abilities, and our own life experiences will vary the rate at which we each progress.

We must allow ourselves to compete on our own level paying field. I cannot compare myself to you, or to my neighbor or co-worker. As much as possible to reduce stress and live in health and peace, we must concentrate on our personal best, regardless of what others would, should or could do.

My personal best

And even our ‘personal best’ changes from day to day. As for myself, these days, sometimes it’s a chore just to just get out of the bed. Renewal indicates a ongoing, one day at a time process. So I seek to, each day, do what my personal best is for that day. Whether it is taking a walk around the block with my dog, doing 30 minutes of yoga, or just getting out of the bed and into the tub, I have to accept that at this point in my life, I cannot compare what I can do to others, only to myself. And hope and pray that each day is a little better than the day before.

Life is a journey, not a destination. And the path will still be there waiting. Life has no deadline, no finish line, no time table. This doesn’t mean I shouldn’t set personal goals. But if the goal is unrealistic, or for whatever reason, I can’t or don’t complete the goal, there is absolutely no reason to despair.

Personal goals

I used to have much bigger goals, but I have to be realistic at this point. Right now my goals are small, things such as:
getting a full night’s sleep
taking at least a short walk daily
eating 3 meals a day, and really enjoying the food
prayer and meditation, to learn to listen to God and quiet my mind
Being able to go to the grocery store alone with having a panic attack

Venturing out of the box

As I am on a personal retreat in Savannah, I am working to go out each day and do something that is a little outside my comfort zone. Last night, that was going to dinner on my own. Today, part of me wants to stay holed up in my cute little place here, however,  I know that going out to the beach and sitting or walking would be good for me, but I have to push myself to go. Sounds crazy, having to MAKE myself go to the beach. But that is what depression and anxiety will do to you. Put you in a box and make it scary to leave. I AM going, as soon as I publish this post!

As women, if we had a close friend was suffering, you’d be there for her. We have to learn to be there for ourselves, to care of ourselves. And that is what I am learning to do, one day at a time. What can you do today, to take care of YOU?

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I found an almost perfect place for vacationing. Now, of course, that depends on what YOUR idea of a vacation is! My teens were not thrilled, but enjoyed it, my husband and I liked it because it was quiet and disconnected and not touristy at all. We had a house that looked out over the inlet, we technically didn’t have access to the water, but our house had 2 kayaks we could use. The house across the street was empty and boarded against the summer weather, so we just used their dock as our own. It was so nice to go and sit and watch the birds, the fish, the crabs…

An island in time

One thing I have to say about this little place, nobody’s in a hurry. I mean that in a good way. Life is just so much slower. Most people who live in the community have golf carts to get to and from town and only drive their cars when they leave the island. Truly, most every thing is town is based upon the tides, that is the only thing that matters. When it is low tide, no boats are getting in or out, when its high tide, its beautiful. You don’t want to get stuck out at sea and the tide go out, you’d be stranded! We had to learn to wait, just a little. We had to wait, for our food. We had to wait, for the tide to come in. One of the best things to wait for though, was the sunset. Have you ever REALLY watched a sunset? On the ocean? It literally look as if it is melting into the water. Beautiful!

Sunset at Cedar Key

Melting sunset at Cedar Key

Cedar Key National Wildlife Refuge

Not having gotten enough of the ocean yet, we found out that if you go to the islands in the wildlfe preserve surrounding the main island, that there are beaches there. We had already planned to rent a pontoon boat anyway, so the next day away we went! Four hours on the water, visited 4 or 5 islands, saw dolphins and pelicans and these very odd diving black ducks. Oh, and we also saw a school of small fishing who looked as if they we doing synchronized swimming, simultaneously jumping out of the water as they raced along (we think maybe they were fleeing from the dolphins!)

Not having internet access was interesting. I was almost completely disconnected from the fast pace of home. I could visit facebook somewhat, via my phone. And I could also get text mssages. I learned I had to stand in a certain corner of my room, or out at the end of the porch if I wanted any service at all. We actually had to call businesses and ask them about their menus and hours, no visiting via website! Just totally different than we were used to!

I have to say, that my husband I thought it was a wonderful place, can’t wait to go back, without 4 teens in tow!

Couple at Cedar key

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