As women in America, most of us are taught from a young age, even if is subconsious or by the media or by our peer groups, that we must be productive. We must learn to run our homes, raise our children, volunteer for every cause that comes along, care for our aging parents, reach out to those around us, oh, and did I mention working a fulltime job, whether by choice or necessity? And we are to be a caring and attentive spouse or partner.
And in most Christian circles, we are taught to put all of the above before ourselves, to be selfless and giving. In many ways this is true and biblical, however, I don’t believe that God wants us to pour oursleves completely out for others without getting a refill.
See that is what happens, we give and give and give, until there is just nothing else in us to give. And then the guilt sets in. How could we be so selfish because we haven’t spent enough time for ourselves?
But think of our lives, our energy, our gifts, however you want to picture it, as filling the cup of our life. As we give and share of ourselves that cup gets drained, and once it is empty, it becomes near impossible to continue to give. This is where I ended up a few weeks ago.
What we have to do, is become aware of the level of our cup. We must learn what things drain it too quickly and try to back away from those things, if possible. We also have to find the things that fill our cup. Some of these things will be the same for all of us, but we will have our own individual things that work the best for us.
Some of the things that help refresh me and fill my cup are:
I am learning that I will have to regularly include these things in my life to keep me full enough to give back.
What about you? What things fill your cup?
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