In our crazy, fast-paced, hurry-hurry society, we still have a right to choose. we have the right to choose how to respond or how to react to any situation we are presented with.
Consider a day like this- you get up in the morning, go to your demanding job, and you work hard for nine or ten hours, and at the end of the day you’re tired, and you’re stressed out, and all you want is to go home and have a good supper, a glass of wine and maybe unwind for a couple of hours and then hit the hay because you have to get up tomorrow and do it all again.
Ahh, but then you remember there’s no food at home – you haven’t had time to shop this week, because of your demanding job – and so now, after work, you have to get in your car and drive to the supermarket. It’s the end of the workday, and the traffic’s very bad, so getting to the store takes way longer than it should, and when you finally get there thegrocery store is very crowded, because of course it’s the time of day when all the other people with jobs also try to squeeze in some grocery shopping, and the store’s bright lights and neon colored signage compete for your attention, not to mention the advertisements playing over the PA system andyou figure this is the last place you want to be, but you can’t just get in and quickly out; you have to wander all over the huge, overlit store’s crowded aisles to find the stuff you want, and you have to maneuver your crappy cart with the squeaky wheel through all these other tired, hurried people with carts, and of course there are also the slow old people and the spacey people and the kids who all block the aisle and their parents who are ignoring them and you have to grit your teeth and try to be polite as you ask them to let you by, and eventually, finally, you are ready to checkout, except now it turns out there aren’t enough checkout lanes open even though it’s the end-of-the-day rush, so the lines are incredibly long, which is stupid and infuriating, but you can’t take your fury out on the frantic teenager working the register.
Anyway, you finally get to the checkout line’s front, and pay for your food, and wait to get your check or card approved by a machine, and then get told to “Have a nice day” and then navigate your cart through the crowded, bumpy, littery parking lot, and try to load the bags in your car so that everything doesn’t fall out of the bags and roll around in the trunk on the way home, and then you have to drive all the way home through slow, heavy, rush-hour traffic, etc.
The point is that a typical frustrating day like this is exactly where the work of choosing comes in. The traffic jams and crowded aisles and long checkout lines give me time to think, and I must make a conscious decision about how to think and what to pay attention to, otherwise I’m going to be ticked off and miserable the rest of the evening. And think about it, we all have days that are a lot like this that make up the weeks and months and years of our lives.
She wrote, “Webster’s dictionary defines perspective as: one’s “point of view”, the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences. I LOVE how that’s worded. “the CHOICE of a context for opinions, beliefs, and experiences.”
Every day when we wake up we have a choice ~ we can choose how our attitude and perspective will be for that day! It sure takes a concentrated effort though, doesn’t it? But WE have the choice – I love that!
What if we chose to have a different perspective then our usual stock response? What if we purposed it in our hearts to deliberately see the joy over the pain? What would change? Who would be impacted?”
We must make up our minds to stop being a victim of our circumstances. We must choose to enjoy each moment. We can choose to smile or scowl at those around us, which choice brings a richer life and joy to others? What a small choice, but oh, what an impact just that one thing could make!
Preaching to the choir here! This is directed to me as much as anyone else!
What about you, how do you choose to react to the stressors in your life?
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