As I wind down this path slowly, I am learning techniques to help me cope with the stress in my life. One thing I have realized at this point, is that there are no molehills for me. I have been on overload so long, everything that comes along is a mountain. Whether it is the guy who pulls out in front of me, a baby crying in the store, or a $400 electric bill, it all illicits the same response in me. The frantic tightening of the chest, being unable to hardly breathe, and feeling as if my mind is going to blow.
This is not a good thing! Our bodies were not made to handle that kind of response constantly. Our bodies were created with the flight or fight response, I am sure you have all heard of. When presented with a danger, we are ready to fight to defend our ground, or we run to protect ourself. Of course, this is mostly figuratively and not literally, as we do not run across too many lions or bears today! The problem is, still thinking literally, should I be as frightened of a fox as I am of a lion? Or what about hearing a noise of something approaching you, your senses are heightened, but then you see it is just a jackrabbit running through the woods.
We use the phrase “turning molehills into mountains”. It means blowing something out of proportion, making something bigger, in our mind, than it really is. So what I am learning to do is to turn my mountains into molehills?
***Very first thing is to BREATHE, in and out, then ask myself-
1. Is my life or anyone else’s in danger?
2. Is my property in danger?
3. Will this matter tomorrow?
4. Will this matter in 5 years?
Once I have asked myself these questions, THEN I calculate the TRUE size of this mountain. What I am finding is just the process of slowing down and being aware of my feelings shrinks those mountains into almost nothing. Instead of just reacting, I pay attention and decide what my response should be.
We weren’t meant to face moutains all day long, unless we have trained to be mountain climbers!
I will be adding more posts of things I am incorporating into my life to help me with my stress, anxiety and depression. I would love to hear from you, what things may have helped you to cope?
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