As I read the comments to my recent post, a thought came to mind that I have pondered before. When we run in to an old friend, or someone we haven’t seen in a while, and they ask: “So how are you doing? Whatcha been up to?” many of us answer with “Busy, been so busy, and start to list all our recent activities- kids, sports, work, house, etc…” It’s almost like it defines us, gives us our worth.
In most American cultures, it would actually be awkward if you were to respond instead ” I’ve been reading, spending time with signifigant other, sleeping late, sitting by the water, prayer, just taking it easy” the person on the receiving end wouldn’t actually know how to take that or repsond to it. I mean, we’re supposed to be busy right? This goes right back to our trying to be perfect, to please others, to keep up the front. We need to be allowed and allow others to be who they really are.
I think what a lot of this comes down to is making sure that the things we are doing are things WE want to do, not someone else’s shoulds. That’s one step I am going to take, examine each of the things in my life to see what are my true priorities and how can I best live them out.
What about you, have you felt that being BUSY is a badge of honor? Do you feel it gives you value?
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