Wow, as I read back over my first post, which I actually wrote a couple of days ago, I realized I used the word “perfect” multiple times. I think that is what we all think we want, a perfect life. If our life was perfect, then we would be “happy”. We see the “perfect” people (especially women) around us and wish our lives were like theirs. How many times have these thoughts ran through your head:
- I wish I had her career, it seems so exciting!
- how lucky, she has such a beautiful house!
- her children are so well behaved, unlike my heathens!
- what a nice car, wish I could drive something that nice…
- her husband always treats her so nice…
The thing is, while we are wishing we were like “them” they are thinking these things:
- I never dreamed this job would be SO difficult, I am not sure I am able to do this…
- I wonder if the foreclosure papers came from the bank today?
- I hate that the children have to spend so much time watching TV, I need them to just BE QUIET so I can get this work done!
- Man, I wished we had not pushed so hard to get this car! I would rather drive my old (fill in the blank) than make the payment on this thing! It is more than our first house note used to be!
- I wish he would just pay attention to me when we are at home. He is always watching TV, playing computer games, on the internet… We don’t even know each other anymore…
See, while we are so busy fretting about the perfect people in the world, they are wishing they were something different. Women, in general, have been sold a bill of goods. We were told that we could have it all: house, job, career, marriage, great figure, marriage, relationships. So we set out in pursuit of this fulfillment of “having it all”. Funny thing is, once we got it, we realized it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. In the pursuit of ALL we lost sight of who WE were and what WE really wanted. We let society dictate what we had to have to be successful. And we became more and more unhappy in the process. We should have been more happy, more fulfilled, as we achieved all we set out to do, yet we feel more and more empty.
While you may not be able to do a complete 360 in your life, I encourage to start looking at some of your decisions you have made, are they what YOU truly want to do? Are there some areas where you can start making some change? It may take a while to make major changes in your life, but start thinking, dreaming, soul searching, to find out who you REALLY are. What are you good at? What brings you joy? Please feel free to comment below! I would love to hear what you are thinking!